Great relationships don't just happen they are created. Learning that TRUST is the space in which LOVE exists starts us on the path to great relationships. Here you will find articles written by Clarity Point Coaches designed to take the guess work out of maintaining great relationships and take the fear out of dealing with people.
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Children thrive when ex-spouses forgiveLast Updated on 2011-06-21 00:00:00
You may be divorced, but your relationship with your ex-spouse is far from over. If you have children, you are going to be dealing with that person for the rest of your life, and this relationship is going to get more complicated when one or both of you remarry.
“When you remarry,” says Jeffery Larson, professor at Brigham Young University, “you marry a person and that person’s ex-spouse.” That ex-spouse, like it or not, is going to be a part of your life forever, and it is in the children’s best interest that you all get along.
Getting along is not easy, though. There is resentment and pain from years of hurting each other. Obviously, you don’t like each other — the divorce is proof of that — but the children need all of you.
Experts say children can thrive in spite of divorce if they are allowed a relationship with... More »
Families underestimate the difficulty of remarriage on childrenLast Updated on 2011-05-24 11:52:50Most families largely underestimate how difficult remarriage can be on the children. They often have unrealistic expectations and don’t appreciate the complexity of the challenge.
Many think because they are madly in love, their families will merge together effortlessly and everyone will like each other.
It is never that simple when children are involved.
As a matter of fact, second marriages which involve children end in divorce 70 percent of the time and difficulties with the children are often the cause.
If you are determined to make your step family work, here are some suggestions that may increase your chances…
Get some education about step families. Studies show 80 percent of couples entering a second marriage today do absolutely nothing to prepare themselves, according to Remarriagesuccess.com
Any family is hard work, but a step family is twice... More »
Women could benefit from thinking more like menLast Updated on 2011-05-19 00:00:00
Men could learn a few things from women too, but there are definitely some things women could learn from men about healthy thinking.
Understand, of course, that this article is based on a broad generalization of how each sex thinks, there are always exceptions, but generally these stereotypes are pretty accurate.
1) Men don’t worry as much as women.
They don't worry as much, because they also don’t think as much as women. Some experts believe that women think three to four times as many thoughts in a day as men do. They don't over analyze and apply meanings - adding fear to everything.
Fear is really the problem ladies. You are too afraid that things won’t go right, or that you won’t be good enough. You are afraid all the time.
Men worry less because we are often not as afraid about winning the approval of others. People pleasing... More »
Committed Couples make step families workLast Updated on 2011-05-04 00:00:00
The divorce rate for second marriages is around 70 percent. The good news is couples who get educated about step-parenting significantly reduce their likelihood of divorce.
The first step in creating a successful step family is strengthening the couple’s relationship. A committed couple is the critical core of a successful family unit. The following are four powerful ways to strengthen your relationship as a couple:
Committed couples cultivate growth
Don’t get a better spouse this time around, be a better spouse this time around.
Many people, when remarrying, look for someone who is the exact opposite of the person they married before. Howard K. Markman at the University of Denver, who has studied second marriages, said, "The motivation to do it differently is good, but many don't know exactly what to do differently.” He believes it is more... More »
Step Families - the odds are against usLast Updated on 2011-05-04 00:00:00
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Stepfamilies and second marriages are more common today than ever before. Over 65 percent of Americans are a stepparent, a stepchild, a stepsibling or a step-grandparent.
Experts have been predicting for decades that by 2011, there would be more stepfamilies in America than traditional families, and we are almost there. The latest statistics show 46 percent of weddings taking place in the United States today are the creation of a stepfamily. This means there are more than 2,100 new stepfamilies created every day.
The bad news is less than one-third of these new families will last.
The divorce rate for second marriages, when only one partner has children, is over 65 percent. When both partners have children, the rate rises to 70 percent and the divorce rate for third marriages is 73... More »
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